Be comfortable in your own skin

I like to start by looking at the definition of the topic that I'm writing about :

comfortable in one's own skin
(idiomatic) Relaxed and confident in one's manner of presenting oneself and interacting with others; conveying the impression that one has a clear, satisfying understanding of one's own abilities and situation.

We all have that one friend who is so clearly comfortable with herself. She's friendly, she shares her thoughts, stands with confidence, and doesn't seem to have a self-conscious bone in her body. And while that's great for her, if you don't feel comfortable in you own skin, it can be difficult to relate. 

It all comes down to self-worth — feeling that you are truly of value, no matter how you look or act or think or what others think of you. Not feeling comfortable in one’s own skin means not accepting who you truly are—seeing your strengths and weaknesses and learning to embrace them and work on personal growth as needed. Too many of us think 'If I just looked better, were skinnier, were more successful, then I’d feel comfortable in my own skin,' but it’s not about that at all.

Thinking that most women have complexes (including the most beautiful women), who also aren't happy about some parts of their body is kind of comforting. It also shows that we all have our own little struggles and things we don't like about ourselves, which is completely fine.  I think what's important is to accept the things we cannot change and change things we can..  We are way too hard on ourselves and put too much pressure on ourselves.. That big nose, disgusting skins, bags under eyes, fat, huge legs, etc..are mostly ONLY in our heads. Other people don't see it - they probably don't care about it too...

We are trying to be like the influences we see on Instagram, in the movies, on Facebook, etc. They look perfect - skinny with beautiful make up and amazing clothes on.. Look again and put in your head that these are unrealistic images,,, those women have their own personal trainers, dietitians, make up artist, wardrobe advises, and much more time that an average woman has..  and of course money money... 

If you are average women in Australia (size 14-16) you should consider yourself pretty happy. You have an amazing body, legs that take you from A to B ,arms that allow to hug your close ones, and do many other things, and brains which allow you to think...  Maybe your body doesn't appear perfect but if you are a mother, that body gave birth to a life. Isn't that incredible and something to cherish and be proud of? 

Accept yourself and love yourself, there is so many women out there who would give everything to be in your skin.  I know it can be hard to digest but that's true.

I'm very hard on myself too, and I know that it takes a lot to accept yourself but I did,, ,I even like myself too, because you can love someone but not necessary like them.. I love and like myself... 

Make it your new resolution for tomorrow - accept, love and like yourself - you are amazing and unique.

​Iwona
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